Finding My Thing

It seems like everyone I meet has found their thing. And when I say thing, I mean that one thing that people knew they were destined to do in life without question, like being a pediatric nurse, financial advisor, or airline pilot. They had found their marketable skills and taken the perfect educational and professional steps, fostering their strengths and establishing connections through every internship and experience. Maybe a career isn’t a passion for everyone, but at least it was a direction. It was certainly more than I could say for myself. It was discouraging to watch my peers find their path – confident, passionate, and sure in their career pursuits.

In high school and college, I wasn’t particularly intrigued with a single subject matter and went through phases of pseudo-passion from everything to environmental responsibility and climate change education to law enforcement and the war on drugs. I engulfed myself with various high-level leadership positions through Sigma Kappa and student government, yet couldn’t nail down what was pulling me towards those positions.

Upon graduation, I found myself pursuing a post-graduate degree simply to satisfy this overwhelming, prideful desire to tell people at dinner parties and family events that “yes, of course, I know exactly what I’m doing with my life,” when in fact I didn’t even want to pursue a career with the master’s I was in school for. I was seeking validity in my decision to stay in school and couldn’t even find a good reason myself.

 I abruptly decided to press pause on my plans and quit the program. Two days after withdrawing my master’s candidacy, at my wits end and on a whim, I applied to be a Sigma Kappa Leadership Consultant and after an intense interview process, received a job offer. Direction.

Summer training at national headquarters commenced and I was sent off to travel for a year, consulting with chapters across the nation and establishing a chapter in Tennessee. I observed and analyzed the organization’s chapters, developed strategic plans for their success, and met with individual officers and general chapter members to identify and nurture their strengths. I resolved personal and organizational conflicts, instilled clarity and understanding into overwhelmed officers, and most importantly, got those women to trust me with their concerns and burdens.

It was a breath of fresh air. About a month and a half in, I experienced an overwhelming sense of clarity. This job had breathed purpose and direction into my life. What I was so desperately seeking, I had found – I was destined to work with people and help them to achieve their own successes, pushing and strategizing with them to boldly and effectively move forward in their roles. I never once thought of “people person” and “advocate” as marketable skills, and surely never thought that Sigma Kappa would lead me to that realization months after my own collegiate experience.

Being a leadership consultant has made me realize my strengths and passions. Once thinking I wouldn’t have either, I found both of them in the same career. I can now confidently apply for jobs with purpose and intent and not haphazardly jumping to every opportunity presented. I am no longer ashamed of my lack a plethora of experience as a young professional and recent graduate, but embrace it as a challenge. I now am confident in my skills, and most importantly, as the employee, friend, sister, and woman I am.

Without hesitation or reservation, I can say that I found my thing. Thank you, Sigma Kappa.

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